HELP & ADVICE
Accepting Help
“I am someone one hundred percent inclined to helping others, extremely competent at getting things done—quite often on my own. Suddenly I couldn’t manage. One of my biggest life lessons was getting and accepting help from other people. For once in my life I had to let go of my power and allow other people to step in and help. Then I had to admit that I couldn’t cope—at all.
To say, ‘I can’t do this at the moment,’ was huge for me. Suddenly I didn’t have the answers, didn’t know what to do. It was as if I couldn’t think outside of what was in front of me. Time and again I broke down in tears of frustration but, at the same time, my inner self was telling me, ‘Let it go, let it go.’ And then I found that the less I tried to do, the simpler everything became.”
Accepting help at this time can be hard to do. Especially when you may feel you have already asked for so much from family and friends. Recognising that you will transition through the recovery process quicker and more smoothly with the help of others earlier on is essential. If you haven’t already, start saying ‘yes’ to support or ask for help.
Both are asking for and finding help can be hard to do. You may be unsure of where to go for help and who to turn to in this time of need. Sometimes it is just a matter of asking for the type of help you need. Exploring this site and the Help & Advice pages should offer some guidance.
Your family will do everything they can to ease your burden. But, it can be a difficult time for them too. Sometimes without knowing or understanding why, they can make things worse.
Family and friends may find the following information helpful.
Go to the Help Page > Help for Family & Friends for more hints and tips that family and friends may find helpful.
The information can help them help you.